Achieving Life's Desires With Perry Tinsley

Just imagine, what if all it took to manifest your deepest desires was a shift in mindset and a bit of persistence? This is the incredible journey we explore with Perry Tinsley, a seasoned podcaster and mindset coach who turned his life around from being a C minus student to becoming a special ed teacher. Perry shares some enlightening insights on how he used journaling to identify patterns and negative thoughts, how he consciously transformed his mindset, and how this led him to manifest the life he always wanted.

We delve deeper into Perry's personal manifestation stories, including how he tragically lost his first wife, Terry, and how he manifested his current wife, Hillary. Fascinating, isn't it, how manifestation can be used to achieve anything, big or small - from wanting a baby, a dream home, or even a fitness transformation. We reflect on the concept that we are always in a state of manifestation and discuss the importance of selecting positive thoughts to focus on what we want rather than what we don't.

In the final segment, Perry elaborates on the power of visualization and how it can help manifest specific outcomes. He emphasizes the significance of aligning your goals and acting under the assumption that your wish is already fulfilled. Perry's narrative defies the confines of age and resources and reminds us that it's never too late to manifest your dreams. Tune in for this riveting episode packed with practical insights on transforming your life through the power of mindset and manifestation.


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In Love and Gratitude 
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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Welcome to the Fertility Mind podcast. I am your host, jessica Friesen, a certified fertility mindset coach, a sound healer and an international best-selling author. My mission for this podcast is to give you weekly episodes where you hear my own success with IVF and how mindset and manifestation changed it all for me. You will also hear from my guests who share their success stories in the fertility world. I want you to know that you are not alone. Even when things feel tough and when things feel like they aren't going your way. The tools and techniques you will get in this podcast, I know, can change everything for you too. So thanks for being here with me today and let's dive in. Hello and welcome back listeners. Today I have a guest with me, perry Tinsley. He is a fellow coach and I am so excited to have him here because today we are talking all about mindset and manifestation. So, perry, give yourself an introduction.

Speaker 2: 1:12

Hey, hey, hey. Good to have good to be on this show. Thanks so much, jessica. Oh, gosh, an introduction. You know I call myself. I give myself when I'm doing an introduction, I'm giving myself a title here, aren't I? But I am a husband, a big time animal lover, and I've been podcasting for gosh is it 17 years now? So, and what I love doing is help people. I help people, especially people who consider themselves busy, busy professionals, to transform in mindset and fitness. I do that, but I also mention people in the areas of podcasting as well. So I wear a few different hats, but if I were to pare it down, I would say I'm a teacher and I help people influence decision making that they maybe hadn't considered before, just based on my experiences or experiences that I've been in with different groups, like the group in you and I have been in.

Speaker 2: 2:22

So yeah, I bet I need to refine that a little bit on my introduction, but that's what comes to mind at the moment here. So glad to be on here.

Speaker 1: 2:33

I think it's amazing because we all wear many hats. So, perry, I guess I would ask you how has mindset and manifestation kind of transformed your life? Or how did you stumble upon mindset and manifestation and start to do and apply, I guess, tools and techniques?

Speaker 2: 2:54

Yeah, so we have, we've got like 15 hours for this podcast show right, absolutely, because that is that's how deep this topic goes, because I look at it now, I think, when it comes to manifestation, it's probably in recent years that I realize that I'm always manifesting. A lot of times it was things I didn't want, but I brought about things that I did want and that not really realized how I did it or why I did it, you know, and how things came to fruition. So I'm going to share with you a little exercise that I did a few years back and it really brought some clarity to me on things, that patterns that I've noticed in my life and then how I was able to shift and pivot forward. Is that okay?

Speaker 1: 3:51

Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 3:52

Yes. So one of the things I was, I was in a business training group, a business training group and one of the ladies that was running this group she had us journal, get up, get up 15 minutes early and just do this journaling. And she just posed a really simple question, which I almost dismissed and I'm glad I didn't. But she said I just want you to journal each day. You know what is it that you know and how did you come to know that? And I'm like okay, and so you can really start on some really shallow, surface level sort of things. Well, how did I do this? So I started dialing in and started thinking well, let me go back. Should I go back to childhood? You can really overthink these sort of things too and then sit with a blank page for a while. But once I started writing and going back, I started writing on how I made the decision. You know what was my mindset and what were the things I did in high school and what were some achievements and what were some setbacks. And then I did the same thing. I decided to go to college. I shouldn't have gone to college, because it was literally a C minus student, had no direction. I just knew where I didn't want to go. And a lot of times that's where a lot of people are with their thinking Well, I know what I don't want and that's what we get, what we focus on. And so when we focus on what we don't want, we don't want, but I use that to almost be like the repelling side of a magnet and saying you know what? I know I don't want to go there, so I'm going to go the opposite. I don't know where that's going to lead me. I just know that that's not what I desire in my life. Now I probably wasn't using those words and what I don't want, I just felt it. So I started, as I started journaling to got into college and you know, I kind of kind of went with a little conformity sort of thing. You know it's like, well, everybody does college. Really great on accounting. I guess I should be an accountant. I went in undecided Everybody else, being an accountant, never took any accounting thing in high school Went in two weeks I realized I am not going to be an accountant. But then I was stuck and I got. It's really interesting how certain things you know, and I realized this through my journaling process how I made the decision to go in and become a special ed teacher, which my mom and dad I think my mom and dad probably have had stitches in their jaw or in their chins so many times, because I think their jaws have just dropped. Every time I shared with them what it is that I'm going to do. But the thing is, when I when I do it, typically, I'll see it through. And so I went in and decided to be a teacher the C minus student who was put on probation this first year of college. You're going to do what.

Speaker 2: 6:59

So, as I'm journaling, I'm journaling all that thinking, all the decision making things that transpired how I decided to get four degrees in special education, how I decided to become a teacher, and then I was going through this, just this journey, and even digging into. I was a two pack a day smoker, but now I coach people in health and fitness. Where did that happen? So I'm getting all this journey down, and it was not just to get it out of my head and write my memoir and have somebody publish a book one day. It was.

Speaker 2: 7:36

I see patterns and I could see where decisions were being made a general interest, digging into stuff and then a transition moment happening. It was kind of like I was already planning for whatever that next phase was in my life, but I did not know that that was it, and so it would seem like, well gosh, that's pretty intuitive, that pretty insightful, but and I don't, I can't say one way or another, how that, that's this, ever happens. But I would manifest literally these moments where it's like, of course I'm ready to for this next step. You know, when it was time to say I'm going to leave teaching and get into some technology things, or I'm going to start a podcast, or I'm going to get, you know, take care of my wellness, the decision making was different. And so that's, that was a big awareness, first of all, that just that exercise and I almost resisted it, which you know that there's a lot of things in our lives that come up and because of old thinking, old patterns, we we dismiss, choose to not pay attention to, we either avoid, and these could be the very things that take us to new levels or at least open opportunities that you know for paying attention and really being radically honest with ourselves on certain things.

Speaker 2: 9:16

So that was a big, a big gateway for me was, was just that realization that I had been doing some things and now that I know that, where can I go next?

Speaker 2: 9:27

You know, and leveraging that. So I mean I can talk about a few manifestation moments here even before, because you, you and I, we were, we were part of a group and it's really interesting how I started working with, with Kathleen Cameron's group, just some of the things that were happening as a transition moment up until that point, but now it's kind of like wow, you know, and then even getting into some about proctors content and then a lot of the people that are in our community. I've met some amazing people. That has has made just super, super exciting, super focused about things going forward. So I know that wasn't a very it was a specific thing, but I know I really didn't talk about manifestation moment, but that was a moment that brought about some awareness of things that I've manifested. You want to talk about any specific ones, because I've got like four or five of them I could share.

Speaker 1: 10:29

Sure, anything, because the whole point of what I like to share with my listeners is really, I just like to let them understand manifestation can be your manifesting your baby or your desired family. It can be manifesting your dream home, a car, your dream job, or even after, what you want your life to look like when your family has arrived. However that may be, because, like you said at the beginning, we are always manifesting and choosing to understand that awareness of that. We are always manifesting that we can choose our thoughts. We can, you know. You know fears and things will always still pop up in contrast, but how we can bounce back faster or flip our perspective and start focusing on the things that we want and then you can start to see your manifestations. Or even for some people that have not even thought about the things that they want, because they just thought like it's eat, sleep, repeat and I'm just supposed to get up as long as I pay my bills and I do this, then you know I'm better than some other people that are really struggling and you think, okay, but you know I'm going to go on a little tangent for a second, but the first time someone said to me like we are all meant to have a desired life and live like your best life, I thought. But I don't have money to do that. So what do you mean? I'm supposed to be living my best life and thought I'm healthy, I can pay my bills, so things it's not bad by any means and I still have lots of laughs and joy in my life. But then you know, when we really started focusing on goals and desires and dreams, I thought my world opened up in a very different way and you know, I started understanding that you can manifest things. And then it's not to feel guilty to want to have things because, especially sometimes in the state of the world, wherever you live, if there's, you know different economies and I don't want to get into politics or anything like that, but you just start to think you know I'm better off than someone else, so I shouldn't need this and I shouldn't want that.

Speaker 1: 12:34

And one of the things that Kathleen had said, like you know, growing her multi-million dollar business during the pandemic she struggled a little bit mentally, thinking I'm making a lot of money where people are losing their jobs and doing this. And you know she mentioned reading the book Happier Than God, or it was. You two can be prosperous by Robert Russell. Both of them are amazing books, but it made me start thinking that you know what we are all allowed to have, the lives that we want to have, and whatever it is that you're manifesting. And that's why I think it's important to showcase different guests that talk about things that they've manifested and how manifesting came into their life or how they just became aware that we can manifest things, because sometimes I feel like the word manifesting is still woo-woo with people because they're just like no, we don't manifest, that's just we don't do that. I'm thinking, no, you're still manifesting right now. So, anyway, I went on a little tangent. But you tell us about your manifestations and things like that.

Speaker 2: 13:38

Yeah, I've got two of them, and so you know I could. I've got one where I manifested a wife, Okay, and this was after I lost my first wife. And then I have another one where I more of more mindset sort of things with my transformation, with making actually staying committed to health and fitness and making that transformation that moment, because I'd approached it at a very different way than my I'm on this thing, I'm off this thing, I'm on this thing, I'm off this thing, and that sort of thing. Which one would you like me to start with?

Speaker 1: 14:19

Let's start with Hillary.

Speaker 2: 14:21

Yeah, let's start with Hillary.

Speaker 1: 14:22

I love her.

Speaker 2: 14:23

Yeah, it is really I do too. It's really interesting how this came about. So I'm going to backtrack to a very traumatic moment Actually, 20 year anniversary is going on right now where I was married to a wonderful lady named Terry. We had our own home businesses, we're doing web design and we're doing videography, also running a German Shepherd rescue, and we were both teachers, you know, and I had an hour drive back and forth and, interesting thing, that Terry had always compared to when there was a very difficult, challenging thing in life that she didn't want to do, she would always say I'd rather have a root canal. That was her thing. I've had a root canal and I'm like what wasn't that bad, but I think it was just the idea.

Speaker 2: 15:15

So the interesting thing is December 9, 2003,. I was going to work and she had to go and have a root canal. That day she was going to the dentist. Now, every time she had gone to the dentist previously she was one that was totally stressed out, need a handholding, wanted me to take her there, etc. She just wanted to zone up, didn't want to think about it. That day I got my face filled with shaving cream and she looks at me and just goes well. I got to go and I totally had forgotten because she was having it done on Monday morning and I totally had forgotten it was the weekend and all that stuff. We just had a blast throughout the weekend. We did a fundraiser with Santa, like Santa paws for dogs or something. We did a fundraiser for our rescue and it was a real big hit. So no, this was on a Tuesday that she was going. So I'm like, oh, that's right, root canal today. I'm like, okay, good luck, because I had a very scheduled day.

Speaker 2: 16:15

I got to work, went to work, came back home, pulled up and opened the garage door and my neighbor was walking back toward her house and then saw me pull in and she pivoted and came back and I pulled up and she says, oh, can I use your phone? I thought, well, that's odd. I'm like, yeah, sure, come on up. I had to let the new puppies out because we had just taken in five new puppies into our rescue and so I get done letting them in. I come and there's a door, a ring at the doorbell, and I asked Mabel. I'm like is everything okay? She's like well, and she just kind of didn't say the guy comes to the door introduces himself as the county coroner and let me know that Terry was killed earlier that afternoon in the car crash.

Speaker 2: 17:02

Now, instant upside down, flip to your world. And so you. I can already feel it kind of that shock moment right now going through my body. It's just like what's next, what now, what Whoa, you know. And so all the things go through and you know there's this could even transition into my mindset stuff for the fitness stuff. But I'll just leapfrog.

Speaker 2: 17:31

So over the years, you know, I used exercise to get through the grief, you know, because I was looking at things like what can I control when life seems so out of control? I really I was not really working on mindset stuff at the time, but I was getting into personal development stuff and I had the mindset that I just wrote December off the calendar. Nope, december doesn't exist. My month, my year, is the 11 month calendar, you know. And so I went through. I didn't decorate anything with Christmas stuff, whatever.

Speaker 2: 18:02

So in years going on, so this 2003, maybe 2007, 2008, I tried to dip my toe into the dating scene, probably because maybe somebody encouraged me to do it, scared me to no end. It was just like just let me scratch my fingers down the chalkboard all day long, and I'll feel a lot better doing that. It just, you know, just seemed very, very uncomfortable. 2009 comes now. No, not 2009. Somewhere in 2007, 2008. And I'm sure wine was involved.

Speaker 2: 18:42

I'm I am like shouting to. I don't know if I'm shouting to Terry, I don't know if I'm shouting to God, I don't know shouting to the universe. I have no idea. I just knew I was ticked and I can probably use some extra tips that go along with it, and I was just like shouting like you owe me. You know, dogs are probably freaking out because I'm on a rant. I'm like you owe me, there's nobody, you know. I don't even know why I was going on the rant, because it was kind of like I was saying there's nobody in this world that I'm going to be able to connect with. As far as the partner.

Speaker 2: 19:18

Now, the thing was, I'd already been working on being comfortable on my own. I was totally. I don't have no idea where this rant comes from. That's why I think wine was involved. It kind of just kind of lowers that little thing, and so I'm just shouting expletives and I'm like because this person would have to be, and I literally shouted out like a checklist of what would seem impossible for anybody to live up to. You know, as a matter of fact, I think in months after that I went to like e-harmony or match or something, one of those dating sites where you've got to put in a survey that takes you like 10 years just to complete the survey. I mean it's like page after page after page after page, you know, and it's like I think you could get a job at Fort Knox easier with their application than this. So and I get done with it and there's no matches for like days and I've only got this short little trial thing. So I reach out to their customer service and like, well, you kind of gotten restrictive on a lot of things. You know, maybe if you uncheck these boxes or check these certain boxes, I'm like, but that's not, that's not what I'm asking for. So I did that little tirade of you know, somebody was really in technology, somebody was in fitness, somebody had and somebody that wasn't, you know, wasn't filled with drama, because the dating scene in my mind meant drama, work, got to go through the things of figuring each other out, all this stuff, and I was at a point in my life, you know, I'm like in my 40s now and old programming is saying, you know, just be content with life. So I I kind of go on through the years. I canceled those subscriptions, got dating things and I just went on with, you know, life content in my own ways.

Speaker 2: 21:16

2009 comes along and every year at the beginning of the year, sometime in January, I'll usually write down like six top goals, five top goals that I would love to achieve by the end of the year. Most of them, you know, happen. So I remember in like 2008, writing something down that was kind of like I want to travel at will because, you know, after Terry had passed, I had started traveling a little bit with my parents and with some friends and I really kind of liked it. But I didn't, you know, it's like well, I'd love to, you know, just have the income to buy plane tickets whenever travel at will. That's the way I wrote it. I would love to travel at will, 2009,.

Speaker 2: 21:55

I write down on the refrigerator go on three dates. Now my neighbor Mabel, she absolutely loves this one and I think I still have this piece of paper somewhere around. She loves it because Perry was going to date again. Oh my gosh, here he's going to go on a date and so you know a lot of people are happy for me. But you know it's not like I went on social media and I don't do. We have some. You know we had some social media, myspace or something but I didn't post anything out there. I just that it's my own thing. Right, go on three dates. Maybe I'll give this eHarmonymatchcom a try again.

Speaker 2: 22:32

Two or maybe not even two weeks later I get an email from a lady and she had noticed my results. I ended up doing a fitness program that I and so this she was on a fitness forum that people were posting results from all these different things that they were doing, they had done. And she remembered my story from years back and she was thinking of doing that program and so and she noticed she went and got it. She went and bought it, but she kind of got a pirated copy off of eBay, didn't get all the materials and things like that. So she was like there's this people that help others. You know, I wonder if Perry does that. I remember his name was Perry, so she, she Googles it.

Speaker 2: 23:20

And then I know Hillary would tell you you know a much better story than I'm telling it. She, every time I tell it, she always says, oh, you didn't tell it, right? Yeah, but I'm not, I wasn't taking her actions, I'm just going from my side. And so I get this email great results, you know. Just have a few questions, and so we hop on a phone, we chat, you know, and I'm like, yeah, you know, this might be a better fit for you, and et cetera, based on her goals. And then you know we're chatting back and forth via email and learning that, gosh, you know we're both. You know what? Why do you live over in Boise?

Speaker 2: 23:57

And just kind of getting to know somebody not in a dating aspect or anything like that Just getting to know somebody is, oh, my gosh, you know about the same age, really both. And it was like, oh gosh, you're that old and you're in heavy metal too. That's kind of cool. Me too, you know, with all this stuff. And so you love to travel and all stuff. Oh, you work for an airline, that's cool. And so just all these little things.

Speaker 2: 24:21

Well, within like a three week time, we've been emailing each other like a few times a day now and really getting to know each other and it's like, oh, that's kind of cool. So I talk about possibly, you know, going on going on a trip at some point, and so that sparked her curiosity and she's like, because I can always travel for free and I'm like she can travel at will, you know that's interesting. So we end up deciding to meet each other. You know, probably to her friend, her friends were really ticked off at her because she just got up and flew to another city to meet some random guys she met online. So you know what that might not be, the the, the insight anybody wants to take away from here. We laugh about that now, but that that can be a dangerous thing to do.

Speaker 2: 25:12

And I went on three dates and they were pretty amazing days. Date one she came here, if we call it a date. You know we were kind of meeting but, you know, did some dating things. Then we did a trip, you know a couple trips. So what ended up happening wasn't until maybe middle of the year, and I'm reading down my little list again. All three dates were with Hillary and in a year later I proposed and later that year I get, we get married.

Speaker 2: 25:51

And here's the thing, here's the kicker that I thought was really interesting. You know, as I got to know Hillary and we as we grew, it was like she ticked every checkbox. It's like if she was also on matchcom, she was probably the be the only one that would have shown up in my, my little feed there. And so I, while I wouldn't have called it, I'm manifest, I manifested her life at the time. I find it really interesting that I throw out this rant to the universe.

Speaker 2: 26:24

I am, I know I didn't think about you know, I was unchained To the result. You know, it's not like I went back and checked e-harmoning nobody at that one, nobody met that one. It's like, no, I just let that go and the universe went to work. And then it really interesting that I marry somebody that has some airline perks that allows us to travel at will. So that's, and now it's been 13 years we've been married. So that is my. I manifested a life story. You know, manifestation moments with Perry, and I'm sure she would embellish it a lot more if she were sitting here on the podcast too. But that's, that was just blew me away because like wow, should I go on a rant more often? I don't know, probably not, but it works sometimes.

Speaker 2: 27:18

It does. It does. It was, you know, so cool and her parents and my parents met and they hit each other. They hit it off right away. It was like they met each other and then they didn't talk to us at all. They because like we didn't exist. There's like their old buddies and so just so many really cool things. We love doing all these experiences and things together and just love life and we learn and grow, you know, as much as possible. That's one moment.

Speaker 1: 27:51

Honestly, like I love watching you guys on social media. I was telling Hilary the other morning when we were on our call and I said to her it's like you, you just saw Foo Fighters. And she's like, yeah, we just decided we wanted to go on like that. It's so amazing. And then, just like all the trips and things that you guys do, I'm just like they really do live life to the fullest. And yeah, hilary's just like that. That's one of the things that we promised when we, when we got together, that we were going to live every moment as much as we can and be spontaneous and and just live. And I was like that's incredible.

Speaker 2: 28:30

It's fun, it really is fun. We do things behind the scenes with you, over, you know, building, building a career that we loved, and so that's that's the other thing that we're always doing and being adventurous that way, but you know, and then helping and serving as many people as possible, but to have those moments and somebody that wants to do that and some of the Some of the fun things that we get to capture and see and experience, and if we could share that with people, just even bring a smile on their face or at least inspire people to say, think about this possibility and give it, give it a try, because what a lot of times we do get into our, we can get into our little hamster wheel life of the, the date, and there's there's something to with the hamster wheel sort of thing, because you can count on it, you know is, you know what to expect, but it doesn't always help with growth and there's so many things that you can do and explore and I know that there's a lot of people out there. They just have big dreams that they just kind of set aside, mainly because of either think you know the way they were brought up and they're thinking, or just looking at external Circumstances of this is the way life is supposed to be, and maybe I can transition into my little fitness how I Changed that way. Would that help? Yeah, sure. So what ended up happening with with the fitness stuff? You know which led? See, it was the fitness stuff that led for me finding Hillary. That's what it was, but it is interesting that's connected.

Speaker 2: 30:21

I Was at a point where I was in this, on again, on off again. I'm in this fitness thing, I've got it, this is my year. And then you don't get going. You know, you're so bogged down in. How am I gonna do this? And it's really really you can really get build yourself up where, particularly at the beginning of the year, where it's like this is my year, by December I'm down 30 pounds, you know, or I'm in better shape, and so we sometimes set these soft, fluffy goals and we're like you know what? I saw a saw a commercial for a gym. I'm signing up, they got a great deal, you go there and it's packed and so, and you kind of meander and guess your way around and then Sometimes just short-lived. I was on a mastermind earlier today and I love the way this lady put it. I'm actually doing this as a podcast episode at this week. She says we're constantly building half built bridges, and I love that, because You've got this bridge, you want to get to the other side and you know, so I can get to other things. And you really start building your bridge and then you decide, you know, you meet some resistance, meet some other things, then you go and build another one and build another one.

Speaker 2: 31:33

Well, that was me with the exercise, and so this time around, I wanted to commit to like a 90, a little 90-day plan, and I tell you the truth, I tried to start it a year prior and I'm like they want you to work out six days a week, come on, you know. And so I was resistant to doing that. I'm like maybe three. And then it became two, and then became one and it was like, oh, I don't do anything. Here goes by, expanded waistline, more frustration, and all I want to do is lose the beer gut. I have no idea why. I Just thought I'd feel better. I thought it would. Life would be so dramatic without a beer gut. So I Made a couple of decisions at the beginning of this journey when I made the decision. First of all, I decided to make what I Now call it committed, this vision.

Speaker 2: 32:24

A lot of times we make up these things that we want to do. We're like, yes, I'm all in, and then we start to think of cracks and flaws on why it won't work, or we start to come up with escape hatches, and so that's where I was, you know, instead of going, well, I'm on this thing and I'm gonna see if it sticks. Or I'm on this thing because I'm going for a vacation or wedding or something, so you know, and then hopefully it'll stick afterwards. You know, a lot of times I was in that cycle and I said what would it look like if I didn't stop? What if I? What it would it look like if this is who I am now? I'm a person who shows up for exercise. I'm a person who shows up and is disciplined, despite the circumstances around me. I just figure out a way, no matter what. And so, and it's really easy, because you get that self-talk in there and you start to come up with yeah, but. And you start to come up with as many scenarios as what if this happens? What if this happens? What is it? And that became a beautiful awareness for me, and I think awareness is a big part of it, because I Realized look at the stories you start telling yourself when you've decided to make this decision.

Speaker 2: 33:41

You're looking for a way out. Your brain is because you've gotten really good at quitting, you've gotten really good at getting yourself out of it. So of course, you're gonna try and use your talents. What if you didn't do this? So I Love what James Clear says in Atomic Habits. I think he says it in that book, maybe it's on his blog in the beginning it's more important to develop the habit than it is to see the results. And when you're talking health and fitness stuff, that's hard for many people because you eat the salad, you're stepping on the scale to see if you drop five pounds. You worked out twice this week. You're stepping on the scale. Did I lose another ten? And you're. You're constantly Bogged down into result, result, result as opposed to what's my goal. So I looked at it as, like you know that James Clear's content wasn't out when I started.

Speaker 2: 34:28

I'm this is a 20 year journey now, but I wanted to. My mindset was I'm just gonna pay attention to the journey, I'm just gonna show up no matter what, instead of me getting my hour drive home and sitting and relaxing and trying to get myself motivated. I'm removing that barrier because I started looking at where are the where the barriers, where are the ways that I'm getting myself stuck and wanting to use an excuse, and one of them was sitting down right after work. So I'm like no more, get home, let the dogs out, get workout clothes on, let the dogs in workout, boom, extended work day and then I can. Then I can do my sit down and all this stuff. And so I started getting into that rinse and repeat and it was humbling at first. I mean two push-ups and I'm like God, has it gotten that bad? I can only do two push-ups. Look at you and I did so. Ah, the self-talk. Listen to you, listen to you, pay attention to what you're saying, and so, as I'm going through and listening to these things, I'm like you know what my goal is? Just to run off six, ninety days and simplify things as much as possible, because I've been over complicating it.

Speaker 2: 35:38

I Put an X on the calendar, one that was. That was my tracking system. I did not step on a scale, I didn't measure. Did one line meant did I show up for my workout. The other one did. I eat as healthy as possible and I was. I was still hadn't dialed that one in, but it got better. So simple, simple check-in system, pushing and pulling exercises.

Speaker 2: 35:59

I had a no matter what plan for those days when I was busy. I'm like I'm committing to at least 15 minutes, no matter what, and then I'll call it a day, and most of the time I get the 15 minutes and then the rest of it would just kick in anyway. And Then I watched the two push-ups went to four, went to five, went to six, the day I could do 10. Oh my gosh, amazing. X, x, x. I ran the whole 90 days. But here was the big shift, one, not the big shift, there were tons of them.

Speaker 2: 36:29

Another mindset shift I wanted to dispel get away from the diet mentality that I'm on this thing until I'm off this thing. So it was a 90-day plan and I wanted to look at it and say I don't want this to end at 90 days. This is 90 days to catapult things, to moving forward even more. You know what's next, what's next? So I adopted this kind of and I do this every 30 days, what's next?

Speaker 2: 37:01

Not in a distraction sort of way like, okay, I tried that, been there, done that, moving on to something else, what can I use with my knowledge? What can I use with my growth, my fitness, whatever to take it to another level? Or do I continue and just do another round, which is what I did, because I tried to take my foot off the gas and go into what people call maintenance mode. Sometimes, with the fitness stuff, there is no maintenance mode. You don't get into the eddy, out and just sit there and do nothing. That does not work. You're going either in one direction or not. Maybe there's a recovery week, but that's it. And that's where I realized.

Speaker 2: 37:43

And then it became where. I don't know if you've ever seen the movie Rain man, but it almost all of a sudden it became who I am and I would have my oh, my gosh. It's two minutes to the Wapner moment where I've got to go exercise and now, when I do this, I'm like now, where's the guy that was the two pack a day smoker? That primary food group is pizza, drinking 12 bottles of Mountain Dew and then we're talking like two liter bottles a week. Where is that person? Drinking water, eating salads, vegetables, my mom and dad another chin drop moment hated vegetables all my life. Boom, they're getting stitches because Perry's eating vegetables and so that's. That is just the crazy thing. But it became and I looked at many ways to improve it, because that's what James one of the things that James Clear had said too Once you've got the habits down, then there are so many ways to improve and enhance it.

Speaker 2: 38:37

A lot of times people just don't get the habits down, and I know sometimes we'd be. We do this self talk where, oh gosh, I'm not into it, I'm unmotivated, I'm find it boring all this stuff. I'm like you know what. I'm setting all of that aside because my goal it wasn't just to lose the beer gut. It became self worth, it became self love, it became dispelling the myth of it's too late in life for you because you're about to turn 40. This is the way life is supposed to be and it's way life is going to be, because I was in a bowling league 10 years prior and I noticed everybody around had a beer belly and a guy sit next to me and when I pointed out to him, he goes oh, wait till you're 30. It'll happen to you and it did. So I had enough proof to say this is my roadmap, this is my blueprint. Now I'm seeing family members and coworkers all with health ailments because of unhealthy habits. Why don't I just follow that path? This is the way life is supposed to be.

Speaker 2: 39:40

I found myself on that journey questioning things of stories that were programmed through just not me, not consciously, but it just been programmed over and over and over. This is the way life is supposed to be and it happens on the commercials, it happens in the news, it happens in the magazines, all this stuff. And I went, approached it and I'm like I'm going to question that, I'm going to challenge that, and so that led into really getting some really great results to where and my goal wasn't to be in competition or anything or be on stage for anything bodybuilding or anything like that, it was to be in a healthy spot, to where I could have the energy to do the things I want to do. And when my because a lot of us, we go around our life like we are a six year old smartphone, 2% battery life, no charger in sight, and we know somebody might text or call and oh my gosh, what could happen. And we scramble around and we hear that and we say, yeah, what you want me to exercise, are you kidding me? But that's the thing. Exercise and your mindset ritual, just the empowerment stuff, that is the charger that keeps you fueled.

Speaker 2: 41:06

And I often ask my podcast listeners what would your life look like if your mental and physical battery was running at 100% every single day? I mean, what could you accomplish? What would you do? Would parenting be different? Would your career be different? Would your relationships be different? Would your things that you want to accomplish? And so you start thinking about those things, and so that's just some of the things I started learning on the journey and as I was journaling and I was reflecting back when you asked me the other day you know I want to talk about some mindset manifestation moments and I start reflecting back. I'm going definitely that one stood out, along with marrying Hillary, but so many others, but it's the it's.

Speaker 2: 41:56

I think it was taking first of all, being radically honest, taking responsibility. That was one thing. A lot of times we all look for external and validation or external reasons to get out of things. You know, in the rational life we don't call them excuses. You know we come up with a good rationalization why we shouldn't do anything, we will defend any limitation that we might have. And that was the other thing.

Speaker 2: 42:21

When I first started, I had twisted my ankle the week before and then on my day one, I'm like maybe I should, maybe I should recover, maybe I should wait until the ankle's better. And then Easter was coming up. At the end of that week I'm like, oh, there's always all this food and now I'm committing to eating good. So I'm like maybe I should start after Easter. And there was a big aha moment, a beautiful awareness. That it might not sound like a big thing to the listeners, but it was a big awareness to me because there was a perfect opportunity for me to procrastinate again because I don't know what my mindset would have been like after that. So I said I'm using the power of now, because that wasn't.

Speaker 2: 43:08

I tried the other way. What if you just did it now? Okay, the bottom is broken, let's work the top or let's modify. And that sort of talk and that sort of behavior was not me moving forward. And now opportunities. So me getting in shape has not only led me, it improved my career, brought about other opportunities. Now I'm coaching people in the mindset and fitness and health space. I started a podcast about it and now I'm coaching, mentoring people in the podcasting space. I've got an amazing wife. We love to do things. So really paying attention, taking responsibility and getting radically honest with where you are and where you want to go, maybe you can identify where you don't want to go. But I wouldn't focus there. But that's kind of one part of my journey, a couple of parts.

Speaker 1: 44:09

Mary, I wish people could see because my podcast I just do audio, I don't do the video how much my cheeks hurt because I have nonstop smiling through this whole thing. But we have so many similarities. I was in a long-term relationship. I've never shared this. I was in a long-term relationship and we were living together when I was in college and his mom had suddenly passed away in my third year of school, my graduating year, and so we moved back home after I graduated and like my life completely his life, because he just lost his mom and that was his big family and we were dating. We were in a serious relationship. Our world completely turned upside down and I had this like burden on my shoulders Burden is not the right word, but I felt like I had to take care of him. I felt like I had to protect him and do all these things and life was not happy for either one of us. But we kept trying to make this work and, long story short, that relationship ended but we were on and off again for quite some time after because it was that, like you know, I love you but we don't work, but I love you but we don't work, kind of thing, and I found exercise. So I started going to the gym because that was the only way that I could like. I couldn't run because I had heart palpitations. But I was like I need to do something that I can like burn out this stress and not take it home and fight with him or fight with my family or fight with my friends. In the end we never lasted parted and it was for the best for both of us. But fitness was something that I wrote on my list that when I find my husband or partner, I want someone that is interested in you know that that's not going to be jealous if I go to the gym or do things like that. That supports that. I like doing healthy things Because that was my way of just releasing pent up negative energy.

Speaker 1: 46:16

And then I dated someone else for a while and I just it wasn't, it wasn't fitting with me, and someone said to me like what would you want in a person? So I too went on e-harmony. I was like this is horrible. I'm like I don't want this and I wrote down I wanted a really big family. So my parents both of them came from a big family and we always had weekends and big family celebrations where it was all the cousins and kids and aunts and uncles, and I love that. I loved being surrounded by family and I'd always loved the name Lily. And so I was like I just like I'm going to name my kid Lily or maybe that will be a middle name or something, and I just wrote down a list of things that I would desire in someone. I'm like this is never going to happen, but I'm going to write it down anyway.

Speaker 1: 47:08

And, oddly enough, my husband walked into my office and he started asking questions like just about insurance, because I sold insurance at that time and it wasn't until a little bit later. But I was like you checked off everything on my list, like you like to work out, you believe in the constitutive marriage, you believe in love, you believe in all the things. And his daughter's name was Lily. So he has three daughters from a previous marriage. But when he said, like this is my daughter Lily, I was like this was actually something I wrote down and it's funny.

Speaker 1: 47:46

I interviewed Brian Proctor and he said the same thing. When he was trying to manifest his wife, he wrote down a checklist and he would add and remove things if it. You know, it didn't really sit well with him, but he had his list and he manifested his wife. But it wasn't until, like you know, a little bit later that some of those things clicked in. But I just I see some of the synchronicities of just how you can write down the things that you want and you think like this is crazy to think that I could ever have this person and the universe conspires to bring this person into life. I would have never imagined because we had a very strict like you don't date clients or anything. And I remember, like I went to my boss and I was like this this gentleman keeps asking me he was a client of yours.

Speaker 1: 48:34

Yes.

Speaker 2: 48:36

For the reason I was thinking okay, so okay, gotcha.

Speaker 1: 48:40

So, but I said to my boss I'm like, before I actually go out on a date, I said I need your permission. Like I said I don't want to break any rules. And he said if you're going to go out on a date, he said all the files now need to be transferred to someone else in the office. You can't deal with any of the files. I was like, okay, good, okay, that's fine. I had no idea I was going to marry this man and and I honestly said to him on, like on our first date is like this feels awkward. I'm like because I know you from a business point first, versus you know just someone that I met on, however you meet, and he just he's like so what does that mean? I was like, well, as, like you can't call me and ask me any insurance questions, I can't do it. Like you're going to be transferred to someone else. And he's like, that's fine, but like we've been at the end of this month will be, will have been married for 11 years and we have built such a crazy beautiful life together.

Speaker 1: 49:36

And it's mindset and manifestations and it again it's that journaling that you go back and you connect the dots. I see decisions and patterns that I did in previous dating jobs that I took, but it was workouts that allowed my mind, especially on a fertility journey, like to focus my mind, and I was like you know I can. This is where I can do. I can safely push my body to different limits and release energy. But it's also the time for me that a lot of intuitive hits come. Like I was working out when the name of my podcast came and I was like stop, press, pause on this work. I got to write this down.

Speaker 2: 50:16

That's what I was thinking. I was like what can get over there?

Speaker 1: 50:19

Yeah, it just and just different things. And I just it's also where I thought I can have faith if I can, you know, work out my body, if I can do different things. And it really was that committed decision because, yes, all of us have built many half bridges. Because when I first started working out, my stepdaughters were home and I felt embarrassed because I had had a twin pregnancy and I was like I'm now trying to work out in my house and like they're around me and they hadn't really seen me work out since before I had started my very first fertility journey. Because at that point my doctor was like no, don't work out If you need to move your body, like go for work, like go for walks and things like that, but like no heavy working out or know anything like that. And that was my very first fertility journey and I really do believe I manifested my twins. And that's when I started learning about the secret or the law of attraction and things like that and I applied all of those like rules.

Speaker 1: 51:24

But when I in my secondary fertility journey, I was working out consistently and it was one of those things that I was like I love doing this, like I love just, you know, I'm not focused on a certain size or a certain anything. I am just focused on this is my time that my mind can just be completely free, and so many things happen that I'm just like, oh my gosh, like it's just, it's a healthy, it's a healthy thing, but that is like that in itself. Like my husband got into working out more frequently and doing things like that as well, and he was very busy into working out when his first marriage was ending and things like that. He was like that's how he got his energy out, and that was one of the conversations that we had is like this is our form of getting rid of negative energy, so we don't bring it home to each other, which is a whole different tangent. But I just I love how similar things have happened in our lives and just writing down the things that you want.

Speaker 1: 52:27

And here they are in years later, you're still incredibly happy and seeing how you can just keep growing and keep evolving and keep learning and understanding your thoughts, understanding your habits, understanding things and knowing that you can change them. And it's never too late to change them, because I can honestly say, like in my fertility business with my clients, like so many women are. You know, like they say to me, like I'm on a biological clock, like my clock is ticking, and I'm like, change that perspective, because you get to manifest what you want. You're never too old, you're never too late. There is, you know, documents around the world of miracles happening, but you really never know the. You know how incidents can unfold, like you know, working out and you found Tiller and it just. You know how the universe conspires to give you the things that you need to make things work, and how journaling is absolutely incredible, because that's how you can start to uncover your patterns, or your negative thoughts, or the thoughts that you know like, well, maybe I'll just start working out after Christmas or after Easter, or maybe I'll do this than that.

Speaker 1: 53:45

And a lot of people I see, like even you know, they just say, well, when I'm retired, then I can start traveling, or when this than that. And it's like start enjoying your life now. And that's a lot of things that I talk about, my fertility, like clients as well. I'm like, yes, when you have your baby, life is going to be exciting, but there's a whole lot of craziness that comes with having a baby too. So start enjoying your life now and build your relationship with your partner. Build everything, travel, do the things. And if money is a different, you know, if money is not in abundance for you right now, then find people that will teach you how to do these things. To manifest money or to travel, like there's many ways that you can be, you know, adventurous, that don't, that doesn't cost a lot of money. But start feeling the joy now and the gratitude now and, you know, focusing on what you want.

Speaker 1: 54:38

Because when someone said to me, like you know, do you want to manifest? When I was telling them like I'm trying to manifest my baby, my last baby, they said to me they said you know, like do you know the sex of the baby that you want to have? And I said, yes, I'm very specific. I said I would absolutely completely fine with a healthy baby, but I'm like I want a blonde hair, blue eyed baby boy. And they're just like, why are you so specific? And I said because, in truth. I said I have three stepdaughters and I said I have twins, a boy and a girl. I said I would love an extra little boy in the house and I said, like, blonde hair, blue eyes is just something that I think would be amazing, because all of our kids their eyes are like like more hazel or more brown, and I'm like I want them to have you know his dad's eyes nice and bright and blue and yeah, just when the universe prime and place your order.

Speaker 1: 55:35

And I did. I have a blonde hair, blue eyed baby boy, who is the sweetest little thing ever. But when people are like, they asked me, why are you so specific? And I said because you're allowed to be. You are allowed to be as specific as you want when you're manifesting a partner or you're manifesting a baby.

Speaker 1: 55:57

I wanted to share something from Joe Dispenza, and I don't quote me exactly. It was either from the book Breaking the Habit of being Yourself or it was something I watched from him on YouTube. I really do like Dr Joe Dispenza. He's very science-based and I just like how he has taken science and proved how your mind set in manifestation is absolutely beyond incredible and incredibly powerful. What I did want to share is the story that he shares about his daughter.

Speaker 1: 56:40

His daughter wanted to go to Italy for six weeks. She had very specific places that she wanted to travel to. He told her like spend time visualizing, spend time feeling excited about what it is that you want to go and see yourself being in all of these places. This is how the universe prime works. You place your order of exactly what it is that you want. Here's the thing. Here's the catch. Sometimes is that it can dangle some things in front of you. All of a sudden there was either her school or something. I don't remember all the details specifically, but she found a way that she could save $4,000 on this trip to Italy if she either went with school or with a group or something.

Speaker 1: 57:34

It was Dispenza that said to his daughter. He said but that's not exactly what you wanted. She said well, I'm going to Italy and it's cheaper. He said no, you need to stick with your order. You need to stick with what it is that you want. Continue feeling that feeling of you going to Italy. Continue feeling the excitedness, the gratitude, keep seeing yourself in all of these places. He said, this, or better, will come from the order that you placed with the universe prime. It was a couple weeks later that a job opportunity came that was presented to her that she could teach English as a second language in Italy in the exact specific places that she wanted to go. So not only was her trip going to be paid for and get paid for it, and be able to spend more than six weeks in Italy and go to all of the exact touristy spots and other spots that she had, and she had more than enough free time to travel and do the things that she wanted as well.

Speaker 1: 58:43

And that is the part that I think is incredible, because often when we go and we say this is exactly what we want, we go back and we settle because something has, like the universe, dangled something in front of us saying, hey, this is kind of what you want, this is along the lines, and we're like, okay, yes, we're going to take that. We not every single person continues on that journey of saying, you know what this sounds exciting, or takes it as you know a sign or something, saying, hey, you know what the universe is conspiring to give me the things that I want, but this isn't exactly it. So I'm going to pass this time. And you know, and that is the beautiful of becoming awareness and all of those things that we, that we teach in mindset and manifestation and that we learn about in mindset and manifestation. But that was something.

Speaker 1: 59:41

I use this like this scenario, all the time with my clients. I use this scenario quite often with my husband, my husband especially in his catering business, when he's quoting something or he's looking at expanding or whatever it is that he's doing the last year and a half. This quote, I can't tell you how many times I've like referenced just this little scenario and asking him and my clients, like, is this really what you want? If this is, absolutely, proceed first. But it goes back to you, perry, when you like, you know you placed your e-harmony, you know, and you didn't get any hits. You reached out to them and they said, well, take some things away. And you're like, that's not what I want, though, and I don't. I don't want to settle, especially when this is a relationship, and if you're trying to manifest a family or your baby or manifest anything in life that matter, when you go and you settle, you're not going to get exactly what you want and that, in turn, will have a different outcome as well. And you know we can choose to find gratitude and all of this.

Speaker 1: 1:00:50

But I think it's so important to understand of staying so true to what it is that you want, and it brings me back to my moment of when, you know, people said to me like, why are you so specific of what you want with your baby? Well, I just I knew that I wanted to have another boy, absolutely. I would have been totally fine with a healthy baby girl too, but I knew that that's what I wanted and that's exactly what I put out to the universe. And no, in the IVF world, at least here in Canada, you don't get to choose your gender by any means. But I set, I placed my order to the universe prime and and that's exactly what I got.

Speaker 1: 1:01:28

But I just I think it's amazing to truly just connect with what it is that you want, and so often people don't connect with what they, the things that they want, because they think, well, I can't have it or I don't have enough time, I don't have enough money. You know, manifesting doesn't work. It's too woo, woo, all the list of things and I just it blows my mind how many times I've seen, you know, manifestations come to life from people that they had no idea how it was going to happen. They just said you know, I'm writing out my, you know my list to the universe, I'm placing my order and it comes. Sometimes it's a day, a week, minutes, sometimes it's a couple years. But when you stay focused on what it is that you want and you stay true to the things, whether it's working out or using your mindset and understanding that you're always manifesting, you can start to see things in a different light.

Speaker 2: 1:02:28

So yeah, so true, I did that journaling activity, but I didn't what journaling wasn't part of my ritual. I think I just did it for the few weeks that it was that. And then I kind of like, well, that's you know, that's all good, but it was a big lesson. And now I journal every day and one of the things I do put down is I act in the assumption that the wish is fulfilled. You know that I've reached my goal, that I've what I've put out there for the order I'm going about as if it's happened. I mean, you know, and if it hasn't shown up right there in, you know it's like I've stepped on the scale on the 10 pounds has come off or whatever it is. You know what. You know, I look at it and I'm like I've got calm expectancy, so I'm just good, and a lot of times it's I'm unmoved by circumstance. That's kind of a big thing that I'm constantly reminding myself that it's really really easy to turn on the news, to listen to somebody else's chatter. If I head home and I'm in an environment from where I grew up, you get the different vibes and stuff. It's like you know, constantly reminding myself, even though the evidence might not be there in my visual range or I can't hear it, see it, smell it, taste it. Right now it's here, it's so I'm shifting my belief there and being pleasantly persistent. You know, I think if you're going to stop doing the half bridge building and build your bridge all the way so that you can build other complete bridges that take you to amazing places, be persistent. Now that also means you know to myself I'm going to be, oh, I keep saying on chain, but it's like I don't want to use that word, but it's just I'm not looking at the results. You know, whatever the results are happening at the moment, that isn't shifting my, you know, making a difference.

Speaker 2: 1:04:36

I'm still moving toward my goal, whether it's health and fitness stuff, whether it's going through and I've got, I get those intuitive hits all the time. Gosh, I could have talked about the intuitive hit on the big dog park. That are the what I did with the money that we got from the funeral for my wife. That was an amazing thing too. But just exercise and being able to have those intuitive hits, but that's stuff with rewiring your mind. I think actually, joseph Spenza has a thing on Gaia called rewired as well. It's for me. I know it's a work in progress and it's a beautiful work in progress. I don't even look at it as work, but you know, just throw a slap of title on it, I have so much fun with it. I know that there's so much that is going to be created and you know when I can reach out to somebody and mentor somebody and I see their life impacted like I just got just with this material that we're talking about.

Speaker 2: 1:05:48

I just worked with a client for 12 weeks. She came up with six big goals that she didn't know how she was even going to do. I mean, and I'm like, oh my gosh, six, let's just pick one, come on. You know, but that was my mindset. But by week eight, four of them already there. I was like, wait what? You know? All of a sudden she's revealing one thing after another and you won't.

Speaker 2: 1:06:14

It is kind of like every time we got on a call she'll be like you'll never guess what. Because she shifted her inside and her thinking and now and then her external world started to shift and our logical minds start to go and we can come up with every reason why that seems woo-woo, why that seems hokey, why that won't work for me. And you know what, when you constantly defend that and use that logic, you'll be right, boy. I mean that will that'll work in your favor to keep the manifesting world. You know the stuff that you can allow and receive. You'll keep that away.

Speaker 2: 1:06:54

So why not do a blend of it? It's like, well, this got me so far, why can't? Why not be open to another way to expand and grow? And actually the thing that I notice is it gets thrown out there a lot, the word quantum. But it really is some major quantum leaps where, instead of just being this gradual growth, gradual expansion, all of a sudden things just start hitting that you're just like wow, I don't know how this happened. And that's another thing. As you're getting out there and you're setting intentions and wanting to grow, it's really easy to logical mind wants to know how and it wants to figure out all the systematic ways that it will logically happen. And the thing is it will probably happen in a totally unrelated way that you would have never expected. And when you're open to that, that's just even so cool. And so that's the way I've looked at things, like wow, and I'm just scratching the surface on this stuff for myself. I won't profess to be the expert in it.

Speaker 2: 1:08:05

I lean on chatting with people like you, chatting with getting in Kathleen's community, listening to Joseph Spenza because it's about being radically honest, it's about being coachable, just allowing, and that persistent stuff, I think, is really a big thing. So if it's a health and fitness journey, just be persistent. I'm on mood by circumstance. I know the goals are gonna happen. Will they happen in 90 days? I don't care, it'd be crazy cool if they did. But if they didn't and they happen in 180 days, is that a disappointment? And then after that 180 days, there's another 180 days. So it's just this constant evolution.

Speaker 2: 1:08:48

And so, while I think sometimes deadlines and dates and things are really cool to create a sense of urgency in things, especially with action, because a lot of times people will spin ideas in their head and then not get into motion and take action on it that's probably one of the big things I think I've heard people talk about when it comes to the secret is that could have been a really big element to mention, or at least it's like I've got these things and sometimes things will happen not the way that you expect them, but when it comes to health and fitness stuff. You gotta take some action. It's like six pack abs. You're not gonna wake up tomorrow with a magic wand. In fact, and even if you did, I'd ask people if tomorrow I waved a magic wand and tomorrow you woke up in your ideal healthy self, healthy body, whatever that means to you, what would you do to keep it? What?

Speaker 2: 1:09:40

does that person think like, what does the person act, like, what does that person do? So are you still using excuses? Are you still shopping the same way? Are you still doing your mindset the same way? Or what are you looking for escape hatches? Yeah, fascinating all those things? Probably not. So start being that person now, and so that's what I got.

Speaker 1: 1:10:03

That's amazing, pari, like thank you so much for being on here today because, yes, I think for me, I love having conversations with other people that use mindset and manifestation and even though people that can learn the exact same material, how we feel driven to share it with the world can be so completely different. And that's what I think is amazing, because we are all unique. We all have our own gifts, our own talents. But I think, just for anyone to hear how you didn't necessarily know about mindset and manifestation when you manifested Hillary and when you did all the things that you've done, but since studying mindset and manifestation and going back and connecting the dots, saying like I did this and now that I know that I had already did this without knowing what I was doing, and now that I know what I'm doing, how you can apply it and go forward and just keep growing and keep expanding, because I truly do believe like we are meant to be living our best lives and just eat, sleep, repeat, doing the same thing over and over every single day is not a way of living, and I just I want everyone and anyone to know that you can change everything about your world sitting in the comfort of your own home.

Speaker 1: 1:11:22

Yes, action does have to be taken, but you can start in the easiest ways of connecting to a desire of something that you want, or writing out a laundry list of, like the personality traits and things that you want in a partner, or how you want to see your life once your baby or desired family is here, or your dream job. And people don't think that they can have these things, and that's why I think it's so important for anyone listening to understand. Anyone in the world can manifest and use their mindset and transform everything about their lives when they choose to focus their habits or focus different things and just even start dreaming, because I know so many people just don't dream anymore, and that was one of the things that Bob Proctor talked about. He's like when did we stop daydreaming? And we all think well, probably any kid like when we're kids, because you go to class and you're not allowed to daydream in class. You're supposed to sit there, take the notes, do the things.

Speaker 2: 1:12:30

And I broke that rule. I still daydream.

Speaker 1: 1:12:34

Yeah, I do. I think I stopped daydreaming for a long time. But then I was like why I wanted daydream? I want to do different things, like something I wanted when I was a kid I wanted to be an author. I'd write these little short stories and then, as my teen years and self-image and things came in, I was like, oh no, I'll never be a writer, that's okay. I co-authored a book and how that manifested. Just we were in a mastermind and one of the ladies just said, like do you want to co-author a book? I was like, yes, I do. Yes, I do Something that I wanted when I was little that I never thought I would have manifested later and I always had a desire for wanting to help people.

Speaker 1: 1:13:23

I had no idea how that would happen. I've every single one of my jobs that I've always had has always been customer service based. And then when I had my twins and I became a stay at home mom, I thought like I still want to help people. But how do I help people? That gives me the flexibility to be with my children when I need to be and things like that, and finding different courses and studying law of attraction and then getting my certifications and things like that. I thought this is exactly it. I get to help people from the comfort of my own home and leave such a meaningful impact and it just it fills my heart with immense gratitude.

Speaker 1: 1:14:05

But five years ago, 10 years ago, if you would have asked me, would I be doing these things? I'd be like no, no. But it really does start with connecting to things that would like. Just if time, money was no object, what would you do? What would you do so if you could step into your perfect body tomorrow, how would that look and feel? What would you do differently that you can start doing right now? Why do you have to have the perfect body or the perfect dream home or the amount of income? Start doing it now and then watch the bridge of incidents unfold and you see like, oh my gosh, I really am starting to live this dream life, and I didn't think it was possible, but I just started doing things and it happens.

Speaker 2: 1:14:51

So yeah, greatly worded and, yes, so true, that's. Thanks. So much for recapping that, because that's a big part of it. It's just that dreaming, and you know so many really cool tools out there that you can use, but you can keep it simple. You know, using visual I even go just go back to I don't know if you've ever read the Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. He had this little ritual called savers which was sitting in silence doing some affirmation, some visualization, you know what else have they? Their exercise, and some reading and writing and doing some writing stuff and I know I didn't say the acronym correctly there, he calls it scribing. If for those of you there going, wait a minute, that doesn't make savers, but when I started, like I'm gonna adopt what Hal was doing, you know this.

Speaker 2: 1:15:48

So sometimes success leaves clues and it's really, really cool, it's really really easy to for old you know, I want to say old thinking, but just patterns that we've grown up with to quickly dismiss things. That won't work for me. That's woo, woo, that's all this stuff and that's. You know, that's fine, but when, when you want to have big things, you you're like gosh, I'm open to giving this thing a try. You know, like with my exercise stuff. I'm open to doing this and I'm gonna change my approach on how I do it and change my thinking. Same way with just some of these. You know, as Bob Proctor calls it, using your higher faculties versus looking at the five senses and the world that's going around you. I never thought of it that way. But when you start tapping into those resources that we have right there in your mind I mean you do not have to go shopping for on Amazon for it it just start putting it into practice and doing these things Some amazing things can start happening. And in time, you know, as you repeat, I mean repetition and just like with exercise, well, I'm not just doing two pushups still over time, over 20 years Now. I'm not saying I'm doing 200s in a session or whatever, but I will say that I've gotten stronger, that doing two pushups is no problem. So, but it does take repetition to do some of these things.

Speaker 2: 1:17:23

And it's just having that desire and that will to go after what it is in your mind and to really be aware. When you start to say that won't work for me or I can't do that, or but what if all that stuff that's a beautiful awareness Cause a lot of us. We do it without being aware of it and we want to defend it. When you're aware of it, and if you can stop and pivot and here's the way I do it I'll just say, ooh, there's an old story, edit, undo. I kind of like word processor, you know, I mistype something and I can quickly correct it, you know. Or I'll say, cancel that, that's just an old story. And while that sounds maybe silly, it's basically a reminder to me that I'm catching myself in a story that is not moving me toward my goal and it was. It just came up because I got really good at that thinking for so many years and I could defend it really, really well, because I could defend. I hate vegetables. I could defend that for no, I porn and but now I love vegetables. So I defended.

Speaker 2: 1:18:30

I'm not a morning person forever. I work from home. I can get up whenever I want, Stuck it up to 530,. I do an empowerment ritual. You know who is this crazy wild person that does this. Now You're in your retirement years, perry. No, there's no retirement. That's next chapter, what's next? What's going on? Let's go. So just be aware of those things as you're thinking and as you're listening to this and starting to, the stories start to spin, because I love it. I love when those stories come up, because I'm like, ah, there it is and I can do something about it.

Speaker 1: 1:19:08

It's amazing, it's amazing, thank you, thank you. Thank you so much for being here with me today. I feel like we could probably chat for hours and hours and hours, but this has just been so exciting to chat with you and for you to share such amazing insight. And, yeah, I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank you for being here.

Speaker 2: 1:19:28

Thanks for having me on. It's such an honor for me, and I just lit up when you said, hey, let's do a podcast. So I'm like really, really cool.

Speaker 1: 1:19:37

Awesome. Well, have an amazing day.

Speaker 2: 1:19:40

Yeah, everybody have amazing day out there.

Speaker 1: 1:19:45

If you found this helpful or know anyone that needs to hear this, please share and don't forget to leave a review and subscribe. In love and gratitude, Jessica.